Monday, February 15, 2010


Yes, that's me making a cheesy excited smile, almost on the verge of looking a little scary.  Thank you, UPS guy, for taking the picture!

"It has been determined that you are able to furnish proper care to an orphan(s) as defined in Section 101 (B) (1) (F) of the Immigration and Nationality Act."

Basically, we've been approved!  Yup....our dossier is FINALLY complete.  This just means that our agency can finally send our dossier to Nepal.

At this point there is no definite time frame for the 2010 families.  Even though our dossier may go to Nepal, it's difficult to know when it will be processed.  Nepal is hoping to start processing 2010 applications in April, but I don't place my trust in that completely, because things are changing all the time. I can only trust that God has got this, and we have NO control over what happens.

Even now there have been several countries that are closing their adoptions to Nepal, because of unstubstantiated rumors about children being adopted out that are not truly orphans (they have one or both parents).  Nepal has gone to great lengths to make the process of defining an orphan in their country a very rigorous one.  Witnesses are required to prove orphan status, and investigations are made to further prove a child in an orphanage does not have parents.  They continue to follow the legislation as best as they can, but there are international groups out there who are trying to close adoption down in Nepal.  Personally, this makes me so stinkin' mad, because more than anything else, these children need permanent and loving homes.  Even in the United States, we are constantly trying to shorten a child's length of time in the foster care system, but red tape a seemingly million other factors continue to impede the speed at which a child is given a permanent home.  At what point do we say, "Enough is enough!" ?  We live in a fallen world.  Corruption and deceit is prevalent wherever you go.  No country has it perfect.  And no matter how strict the legislation, there will be always someone trying to break the rules.  How long will we allow our fear of corruption trump the need of child for a permanent home?

So anyways, thankfully God is bigger than all this.  But continue to pray for the children in Nepal who long for and need a permanent home.  Continue to pray for the government of Nepal, that they will be able to proceed with adoptions, despite outside pressure to shut down.

There are some 147 million orphans across the globe.  God says that true religion is to care for the widows and orphans.  So that's why I can't sit on my butt and pray someone else takes care of them.  That true religion is not just for some of's for all of us.  I'm scared to death, too, but I'm excited at the same time.  The child God has for us is going to be one seriously amazing child!

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

I will not be shaken...

Back in September, we started the adoption journey.  We applied, were accepted into the 2010 Nepal program, and we were excited.  We heard stories and read blogs about how difficult and trying the process of international adoption can be.  And despite all that, for the most part I have kept a very level head.  You could even say I've kept an extremely positive level head. I want to be strong.  I don't don't want my faith to be shaken.  I want every day to be a day that I tell God I trust Him with this process.  I want this blog to be a place where people who are going through the same process, can find encouragement and joy.  I still want that.  

But at the same time, I don't want anyone who reads this blog, or any friend who is walking through all of this with us, to think for one second that this hasn't been truly difficult.  It has only been four months (just a moment of time in the adoption world), and I am already having days where I crumble under the waiting.  This past Saturday, when I laid down to go to sleep, I cried and cried.  I asked God why it has to be so hard for us.  I asked Him why it had to take so long.  I didn't hear an answer.  I could only lay there with the knowledge that He has already given to me; that He has everything under control, and that I don't need to worry.  Of course, as a mere mortal, I can carry that knowledge in my heart every day, and even find great amounts of joy and comfort in that knowledge, but impatience and longing sometimes get the best of me.  For one year, we tried to get pregnant.  In year two, we believed for a miracle (since Wes's cancer had erased all medical hope of pregnancy).  In year three, we went through the foster to adopt program through the State.  Due to staff shortage and a complete lack of organization on their part, we didn't get approved until a year later, and at that point we had already started the process to adopt from Nepal.  Which brings us to year four.  Here we are, waiting for documents from the American government to be approved.  Here we are waiting and wondering when Nepal will process our application once it has been sent over there.  Here we are wondering if we will have our first child before I turn 33 (in January of 2011).  There is so much uncertainty.  There is no guarantee that we will have a baby within a year, which is the estimated amount of time they expect it to take to adopt from Nepal.   There is no guarantee, that even after we have paid the estimated $23,000 it takes to adopt a child from Nepal, we will even get a child.  Everyone in this process is warned that there are those slight possibilities that a program can close in the midst of your process, and you can lose all the money you've put into it.  These are all possibilities.  I've met people who have gone through this very thing.  These are all the risks we take in order to increase our family, and give a new life to a child with no family.

Is it all worth it?  Yes.  I believe it is.  Was Isaac worth the wait?   I think his parents thought so, and I know I'm thankful that God fulfilled that promise to Abraham and Sarah.  How could I not be thankful?  

So even in the midst of the heartache, I know it is all worth it.  And I know I am not alone.  There are so many others who have waited longer, and gone through much more than Wes and I could imagine.  I know that full well.

In my weakness on Saturday, I reached out for counsel from another mother who has already adopted from Nepal, and is going through the process once again.  She is one of many who understand how hard this process can be.  She said, "I know it hurts (now), but it will melt away once you hold your child."  She is so right.  It hurts a lot right now, but that will seem like nothing compared to the joy we feel the day we are joined with our son and/or daughter.  What will that day be like?  What will it feel like to become mother in an instant?  What will it be like to see their beautiful eyes looking back into mine?  I can only imagine.  And after all is said and done, and our baby has come home....every moment of uncertainty....every year of waiting....every dollar laid down...every tear of heartache will all have been worth it.